Stupid people

There are some people that I will never like. The people that drive slow in the fast lane for one. Or the people that get out of the carpool lane right before their exit. They then come to a complete stop as they maneuver across the freeway. Or how about the people that speed up when you put your blinker on? But people that dislike police because a few of them are bad. Those people are stupid! Below is a link to a story where a restaurant owner asked police to not eat at his restaurant any more.

I know many people put themselves in a bubble to escape reality. They avoid politics even though elections are in less than 4 months, and they play little computer games to pretend things are not eroding around them. I understand that and can appreciate it. But, for those silly and naive people that think that police are all bad? I feel sorry for them. Do not judge the masses because of a few bad apples.

Police protect people around this country every day. Lay their lives on the line for not that great of pay. Many just because they enjoy protecting people. Yet people let the media tell them what reality is instead of experiencing it for themselves. The media loves to sensationalize things because of ratings. Stories about all the examples of police rescuing people out there don't sell like the negatives one do. But STUPID people like this restaurant owner are why we can't all figure things out. This guy should take his Chinese restaurant to another country where there are no police or infrastructure, I dare you. I freaking love this country and what it stands for. If you even come close to believing there should be no police? Get out of my life because I have no idea what you're thinking. It's the same mentality as those that hate people based on color, gender, religion, etc without knowing the individual. Get a grip haters, most of you are too cowardly to protect yourselves so you might want to support your local police department.


https://www.yahoo.com/news/police-officers-asked-stop-dining-154928069.html

Are we on a downward spiral?

This post isn't for everyone but I've noticed over the years how people have become more angry and bitter. I first noticed it in New York and slowly to California. When I visit places like Scotland, Canada, Australia, and even Arkansas I notice that a bigger percentage of people are more genuine and cordial. I'm not saying it causes more violence in the US but it doesn't help. When I go through customs in these other places I'm treated like a person. When I go through customs in New York or New Jersey I'm yelled at and treated like cattle. So I smile and joke with them. I've even been sent through extra security for telling a TSA agent that she needed an attitude adjustment and made to miss a flight by customs because I'm a smart ass to rude people.

I definitely still get angry but I realize it soon and I check myself (or My family checks me). Most people that know me can attest I'm generally a class clown jokester. But one thing that pushes my buttons is someone treating someone else badly. From personal experience as a young kid being that angry person I know for a fact it will only hurt you. I didn't tell my wife happy anniversary on Facebook on June 7th like many of you do. We first met in August of 1995. But I do credit her and appreciate her for helping me see that love is the most powerful aspect of life. Even though we've had tough times, I have 3 wonderful young adults because of her. I also wouldn't be the person I am happy to be today without her.

Be the reason someone else has a good day by just showing some genuine kindness. I've decided I have to speak up even though I'm generally insecure and afraid of what people think. I have to ignore my own self doubt and realize there are people out there like me that wear their heart on their sleeve and are a bit different.

Also, not many of you are still reading this, but if you are you know I love you. Stay strong and may we find a way to fix the downward spiral were on as a species. It's on us as a whole and we can't depend on the Donald Trumps or Hillary Clintons to fix it for us.

I can't stand BET!

Speeches like Jesse Williams at the BET awards last night is what I believe sets us back as a species. Another rich person trying to tell others that he's fighting the fight? What fight? It's similar to Hillary Clinton giving a speech on inequality while wearing a 14k dollar Armani suit. First, I loathe BET. If black people want to be equal then they should be happy being equal. Instead, they want what nobody else is allowed to have. A channel and awards show only celebrating black people. Wait, where are Will and Jada Smith at? Why aren't they complaining that no white people were nominated for any awards last night?


Jesse Williams trying to compare himself and others today to "branded slaves" is laughable. Look, there are many examples of racism today. We all share the same struggle though. We all struggle, I don't care what color you are. There are impoverished white people just like there are black people. But, if you're telling yourself that someone else is keeping you down? Then you're keeping yourself down. You are responsible for getting yourself out of your situation and into an environment that will help you thrive. But to try and believe that people like Jesse Williams and Hillary Clinton really care about your struggles? That's just foolish. They just want to feel better about themselves and the fact that they no longer live the struggle. By falsly inserting themselves into the conversation it even enpowers them to feel as though they're a leader in getting people out of the struggle.

Complexity of parenting

I'm a weird parent. Many people have either questioned or wondered about my parenting methods. I'm not claiming to be a great parent or that I'll ever win some sort of award for parenting. But, I do believe I am on to something with some of my methods.

We'll focus on the positives before getting to the negatives. The biggest item is responsibility. If you have a child that is hungry to learn, feed them! In America especially, we coddle young children when they're at their toughest. Young people are very resilient, yet we don't allow them to push themselves in multiple areas. My daughter started doing her own laundry at 6 years old. She said she wanted to learn, so I taught her. We never did her laundry again. She might be tired of doing it now that's she's 22, but she does it!

The other biggest thing is being honest with them. Even with your faults. Who should they learn from more than you? Sometimes kids learn most about what not to do by watching you fail at it. If you say don't do this but you do it that's one thing. But if they live the struggle with you they might have a different perspective. Instead of keeping them away be honest with them on the specifics of how you became addicted or whatever the situation is. I am not afraid to confess my shortcomings to my kids. I'm not quite an open book, but they see things to help them learn. My bank account is an example of what most parents don't share with their children. My parents never shared their struggles with me. As I got older My respect grew but through trial and error. I wish they would have vented about their stresses. We would have learned through them!

The last thing is multi-faceted. In addition to being real with them, love them! That means hugging and saying I love you. You'd be surprised at how much this part helps.

That's really to me the most important things to consider with raising children. I'm not in the clear, and that's what you'll learn as a parent. Parenting is never done. If you want to be a role model? You'll never be done. I plan to always being there for my kids like my parents have been. Well, my dad passed away 6 years ago, but he embodied these fundamentals. I hope to learn more soon as well. In 2016 have a 22 year old, 18 year old, and a 16 year old.

I lasted 3 months

One of the hardest things for me to deal with is disappointment in myself and I'm harder on myself than anyone else is. My wife is a close second and my apologies for that jab. Maybe I'm feeling irritable lately. But mostly I'm just upset with myself. I'm so easily distracted it's frustrating. It's hard not to get distracted though. I have a daughter that just had a baby and a son that starts at a UC in the Fall. I have no idea how we're going to pay 23,000 dollars a year but I'm not going to let that keep him from going. He is guaranteed to graduate with over a 4.0 and has worked very hard to get accepted. I try to stay focused and handle my business but I get distracted. It's my adhd and I'm not a great multi-tasker. I feel that if you are doing 2 things at once then you are only doing each at 50%. I prefer to focus on one thing. Anyways, I digress...


I lasted 3 months without drinking. I didn't stop because of any reason besides health. For 3 months I felt level and didn't have to worry about waking up feeling crappy because i drank the night before. I tried my best not to make it a big deal but at times it was. When people ask you if you would like a drink and you decline they get curious. When you tell someone you stopped drinking they instantly want to know the reason. Now all of a sudden it's a topic. There were numerous people that felt Awkward hanging out because of me not drinking. I feel like I can hang without alcohol but maybe I'm not as fun? I'm not much fun these days anyways. I mean I can tell a few jokes and I enjoy my days but my life is so damn serious these days. So after having 2 beers with the wife one night before I left for a week on a business trip I went downhill. The Friday after that I had 3 Stone Delicious IPAs (gluten free) and a couple shots. The following week I drank Thursday and Friday. Now, here we are the following Friday and my wife is already asking me to get her some Guinness and shots.


It all makes me so disappointed in myself. I was so focused on my goal of getting healthier and even getting under 200 pounds by my 40th birthday. Here it is late April and I'd have to go to some sort of boot camp to achieve my goal. I should only write about rainbows and butterflies. Or whatever people would want to read. Instead I try to be real and sometimes that's fucking depressing. Most of the time I promise I'm smiling and just thankful to be in the game. These last few weeks I've been really questioning many things. I seriously should just be happy and not complain. I truly am lucky. But until I wake the fuck up and get my act together I'm going to keep kicking my ass. And that's the part that I'm trying to figure out. Should I just ignore my conscience and just enjoy life and indulge? Or should I be strong and do what I have to do to stay healthy? Seems like a fucking no brainer.

Passion is contagious

Passion is something we all need to strive. Without it our lives lack meaning. We can have purpose. But purpose alone does not fulfill us. We have to be passionate about our purpose. With so many people having issues with others that have no desire to be a part of the functional part of life, it's because they lack passion. I can't blame them. Like the singer said, it's all been done before. Or at least that's what they think. We're raised to assume a role. In school we're taught the same things in masses. But in order to discover greatness you have to be different and think different.


In many ways I never had a chance to realize this. I'm not here to complain and blame, I hope I'm past that in my short life. I had kids at a young age. Before I could realize what I am capable of. I see others that were maybe probably nurtured and allowed to develop individuality. Others just did it against all of the odds. Even though they were brought in environments where they should have quit, instead they still thrive. I'm not disappointed in what I've become. I've already reached levels I never thought were possible. Even at 39 years old I have already accomplished more than I ever knew was a possibility. But I don't want this to be about me. I'm only trying to explain that we can't blame people for what they don't know. This life is a journey and we must travel alone. Each of us has a mission we are here to accomplish. Although it's very likely we'll never know what it is, we all have an opportunity to achieve it.


I do know that with passion and purpose I have found that I can't imagine not searching for my meaning. The reason why I'm here. Although at times I run low on energy, knowing that I can possibly find that lightning in a bottle moment drives me. I don't know when or if I found it but I know that if I could motivate one person to know it's possible then I've done what I can. Don't get me wrong. I've had to fake it till I make it many times. Convincing myself that i'm passionate about something just to motivate myself. Only to find that I had the drive within me all along.


I believe everything happens for a reason. I believe that having kids early was a subconscious decision I made. It sparked me. Without it I don't know if I would have made anything of myself. But looking in their Eyes? I know I have no choice but to get out there and work to thrive. And I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way.

Hillary for President?

How can you vote for Hillary?

The Presidency should be reserved for the highest of high in achievements. To be selected you should have had to done exceedingly well in your career and life. So why are so many people considering Hillary when this does not describe her at all? Don't get me wrong, she has done well in her life. But what has she done so great to deserve the United States of America's highest honor? Let me see if I can point out a few of the reasons and then explain why the reAson is laughable.

The first reason and biggest reason is because people in America seem to enjoy rooting for firsts. Hillary would be the first woman president in America and so I believe millions of women want to vote for her just because she's a woman. To me that's so sexist and insecure of women. Women should wait for a real female candidate instead of voting for the wrong one. If missions of men vote for a man specifically because he is a man that would be considered sexist. But when women do it it's considered feminism. In my opinion that's the only reason women could be considering Hillary for president. She has not exceeded at any part of her career. Not only has she not exceeded but controversy has also followed her.

People are also voting foe her because of the success of Bill Clinton. It's absolutely absurd to vote for her because of the perceived success of her husband. Bill was a cool president but I would argue against his success as president as well. It's a different subject but I will note his embarrassing scandal of Monica Lewinski. As well as allowing to give loans to millions of people without having to actually prove their income. Directly causing the housing crash of 2008. Add to that he was also part of the Whitewater scandal. What he was is lucky. He was fortunate and lucky to be the president during the beginning of a new age and industry of computers. So voting for Hillary because of Bill is ridiculous.

I will look directly at her barely positive career. Eight years as the first lady hardly qualifies as experience. Especially since that was another point of continued controversy in her life and career. Although no charges were brought against her Whitewater continues to be a questionable part of her past. After her term as senator she was elected Secretary of State. Once again she was part of controversy. In my opinion her lack of regard to confidential information alone should disqualify her. She sent thousands of confidential emails through her personal email account endangering thousands of lives. Including the Benghazi deaths. She then completely lied about the entire situation under oath. Their is video on Youtube of her lying about sending emails and laughing about it. This shows her lack of integrity and how little she values the average American.

On top of that is the Clinton foundation. Once again Hillary is part of a controversy. Now it is with her and her husband's foundation. Although she has not been charged with anything yet the Clinton foundation is another example of why Clinton not only does not deserve to become president but why she can't even be trusted as an official. Of the 140 million dollars the foundation received in pledges in 2013 only 9.4 million went to direct aid. The foundation is treated more like a slush fund for The Clinton family and friends than as an actual non-profit. The Clinton foundation and Hillary herself is currently under investigation by the FBI. There are numerous examples of a minimum of conflict of interest with her foundation and her time as secretary of state.

I'm not advocating for Hillary Clinton to do jail time or that she has not been successful. I'm only saying that she has done nothing to deserve being appointed to the highest honor the United States has to offer. There is a saying "where there is smoke there's fire". It is completely naive to think that with all of this controversy that has followed Clinton that she is not responsible for some part of it. In my opinion for all of these people to continue to support her for president just shows the lack of integrity missions of Americans also have. To support someone of Hillary's character shows the lack of knowledge many Americans have for not only the political process but also for being informed of reality. America already has integrity issues when it comes to politics, let's not make that even worse by electing Hillary Clinton as President. Our citizens deserve to have a leader that embodies what represents us as a nation. That's not a person who refuses to acknowledge any responsibility in any of her wrongdoings. While also lying about her involvement in any of them. Benghazi just being one example of how she failed not only the American people but innocent people who lost their lives.