Classism

We're in a new era in society. With still so many naive people hating over race and gender they don't realize the real separation. That separation is class. Barack Obama might be a black man on the outside but he's an elitist more than anything. He might have come from humble beginnings born to a Kenyan father and mother from Kansas but now he belongs to a different society. There's a society of elitists that believe the lower classes belong to a different society than they do. They believe they know what we need and want more than we know what we need or want. These classists associate based on money and power not race. While many of us normal citizens spend time hating based on color they see us all as the same. People put here to be controlled like sheep.

Instead of us hating each other based on such superficial things like color we should show support for our fellow man that's in a similar situation as us. Are they not fighting the same battle as we are? Are they not trying to support their family the same way you are? So why do we care so much what color someone is but we allow Congress to force us to have healthcare that they don't even use? Why do we care so much about random peoples opinions but we don't care that the elitists continue to make us do things that they don't force themselves to do? Seems like a do as I say not as I do attitude doesn't it? This is where the gray areas come in. People try to associate certain sterotypes with specific ethnic groups or colors. Well sterotypes do generally come from some truth that is assumed to be universal. An example is that some black people are gang member so they all must be. Or some hispanics are here illegally and taking advantage of the system so they all must be. The truth is that there are plenty of good and bad people in every color. If you disagree it says more about you than it does reality.

God over religion

People might get the wrong impression about me by only reading what I write. So much of this is what I think, not all of what I do or say. So many times I'm too much of a coward to say or do. The rest Of the time I'm either too lazy or probably too proud. Just trying to be honest. I write about religion sometimes as if I don' agree, support, or understand. I just believe that religion plays too big a part in peoples lives. Be thankful, thank God, thank those, and be happy. The moment you worship a religion instead of God? You're going in the wrong direction. Don't believe me, or dismiss what I write? How many religions accept other religions? If you automatically exclude someone based on their religion, how do you speak to all people? You either convince them to join your religion at that point, or you rebuke their religion. Why not support your God with the love you have in your heart while using the conscience given to you by a higher power.

 The Bible was not written by God, it was written by man. Then, it was translated a bunch of times, by man manipulating to their advantage. Many people have been stranded or stuck without a Bible, Koran, or Book of Mormon and come out of the ordeal thanking God. God lives in you just as the scriptures of Jesus state. "With the faith of a mustard seed you can move mountains". Yes, I'm quoting a verse about the son of God from a book I say was written by man. That's because in my heart I believe that it's true. In some ways I'm a hyprocrite. But I do know that people believe I'm not. I also know that people believe God lives within them. I also believe God lives within me. Just don't try to come tell me if I dont accept your God then my life is hopeless. Or worse, your God tells you that you must conquer me for not accepting that your opinion of your religion and with translations explained to you by many different people is fact!

Political Correctness vs. reality and truth

Our society has gone far down a road of political correctness instead of truth. Politically correct is just an accepted way of lying to you. When someone speaks they should speak the truth, not say it in a way that will make everyone accept it. One example is below where society bashed someone for having an opinion. People should be free to think and feel however they want. Then others are allowed to agree or disagree with them. Just recently a Nobel prize winner made comments about female colleagues. It was a statement by one man and it was actually accurate when it comes to men and women throughout history. But because of the feminist movement people get their feelings hurt and lash out wanting someone to be punished for their opinion. That's exactly what happened. Tim Hunt is the Nobel Prize winner and he was forced to resign after making comments during his acceptance speach. Around the same time Joyce Mitchell who worked at a maximum security prison fell in love with 2 murderers and helped them escape from prison. What do these have to do with each other? In my opinion Joyce Mitchell proved that what Tim Hunt said has some truth to it. That doesn't mean all women fall into the category but.....


A Nobel prize winner recently made some sexist jokes in his speech about how female coworkers either fall in love with you, you fall in love with them, or they cry when criticized. The backlash from his acceptance speech for the award was so overwhelming that he resigned his position. So the world lost a great scientist because he gave his opinion?
http://twitter.com/connie_stlouis/status/607813783075954688/photo/1

A female employee at the Rhikers island correctional facility was arrested for assisting in the escape of two life term convicted murderers. We scold a Nobel Prize award winner for making a statement and less than a week later a female falls in love with an institutionalized criminal? Tim Hunt made those comments and he only said what is statistically correct. People are so sensitive. We forced a nobel prize winner to resign because he made an awkward joke but allow female prison employees to have sex and fall in love with murderers and rapists? Sneaking hacksaw blades in through hamburger? I think I saw that on an episode of ducktales! Women are 70 percent more likely to have a relationship with a prisoner than men are.! Although it is poitically incorrect to say what Tim Hunt said it's statistically true. Here's the article for the story. Why are we so concerned with one man's comments but seem to dismiss a huge problem of women falling in love with their students and violent inmates?

http://kfor.com/2015/06/09/new-york-prison-escape-female-prison-employee-questioned-as-possible-accomplice/

Honesty?

I'm naturally outspoken as a person. I generally have no filter. But as a man that has obligations I'm forced to conform in many ways unless I want the judgement cast upon me from countless sources. One example is my belief in individual freedoms. Let's just say your boss is a very conservative person. Your boss openly expresses his belief that he is a devout Christian and gay marriage is a sin. Or that he is a hard core Republican while you have a different view. Can you really express your beliefs openly without limiting your opportunities in the future with him as your boss? People will try to say that everyone has freedom of speech and you should be able to express your beliefs without the fear of retaliation. But the reality is that you don't have that freedom. You do have the freedom to express yourself but you don't have the guarantee that you will not be penalized for your view. As soon as you enter the discussion and give your opinion that you don't think is anyone's business to tell you who you can or can't marry and that you'd vote for a democrat if you believed in him as an American? You've just affected your future in this boss' department. Don't pretend for a second that you're free to have your opinion. That boss might tell  you that you are free to have your opinion, but when it comes down to you and the other person going for a promotion? If that other person shares his viewpoint, or pretends he does? Well, he's going to have an advantage over you. So although I'm outspoken I'm trapped in this realm of only saying so much or I risk alienation.

    Back to my point. Everyone is allowed to have their opinion.Or at least they should. I see situations daily that I feel one way but it's an opinion that might be contreversial compared to what the popular opinion would be. In the past I have been open with that opinion. Although I am proud of that it has hurt me in many ways. Especially in the workplace. By the time I am done with a conversation there is always going to be someone who does not agree. Most of the time it's around 50/50. But why should I hide the fact that I'm going to vote for Ben Carson? Because he's a Republican? Or because he's not a politician? I thought I wanted Donald Trump who is a Democrat (?). Where do I stand as a party affiliate there? Sprinkle in a little bit about my religious beliefs and I've already taken 50/50 and made it 25/25/25/25 at the best hope. But why should I alter my viewpoint based on what will be popular? I think that people who say that God made marriage between a man and a woman and that they will not accept it are assuming too much. Did God come to you personally and say that you should go out and judge two men or two women for getting married? If you say yes then you are absolutely lying. The fact is that nobody has the bible! God's word has been altered from its original state to suit man. Now you're really confused!? I believe in a higher power, I don't doubt it at all. But I won't drink the Kool Aid to think that a world that started with a few corrupt systems comprising a few staple religions are telling the complete truth. The biggest disagreement I have with it all is that any one of the choices are completely correct. Islam? Christianity? Mormon? Judaism? Jehovah's witnesses? All of them will tell you that their word is correct yet every other religion will tell you that the other is wrong. How could one God speak to all of these humans? The answer is that every option has some great message to share with the masses. But to believe that one has all of the answers? I would say you're foolish to believe that. If you tell me I'm crazy to not believe that I would ask you which camp you belong too. Then I would ask you how you expect to get all of the other groups to believe if you judge them for not believing everything you believe? You get more bees with honey. Why not find the beliefs that all share and focus on those and then figure out the rest?

I really think that we're in trouble as a society. I don't think 8 billion people can agree to disagree and live in peace while eliminating what causes these issues. We've already passed the point of no return. But should I try and make a difference or continue to just be politically correct and keep my beliefs quiet?

Parents and parenting

My 16 year old son failed his driver's test today. I was hard on him last night because he hit a curb on a turn in a parking lot and again this morning because he didn't turn when I told him to. But I might have been too hard on him and in fact I know I was. The hardest part of parenting is not letting day to day events alter how you treat them. So I get him all worked up when he's already nervous and by the time we get to the DMV he's struggling. I tried to pep talk him into letting it go and relaxing but it was too late. He ended up failing his test and as I walk up to him I see the tears welling up in his eyes and I instantly feel so horrible. You never want to see your child struggle or hurt and I helped cause it. So now I sit here at work feeling shitty about myself but the same way I told him he has to shake it off and move on I have to do the same thing. But it's not easy because they're an extension of you and the last thing you want to have them do is struggle. Life lesson for the both of us. I have to back off now that he'll be 17 in 3 months and I have to start letting him live. I wish I would have realized that yesterday instead of today after he failed his test.

Also, I get a call from my mom's husband Greg. Super nice guy and a big part of why my mother is still alive. I was going to say alive and well but on that phone call Greg told me that she's in ICU with tubes down her throat. I just started talking to my mom again after 25 years last November. Am I going to lose her again already? She might not have been the most nurturing mom but when she was there when I was a child she was loving. I remember one time we were driving down the road and she had to stop real quick in her car Betsy and she put her arm across my chest to protect me. I remember thinking man would that even help but at the same time thinking my mom loves me! That's what I always felt was that she loved me. Unfortunately the guy Paul that she was with didn't know what love was and used to beat her and us. So we had to go live with my mom's brother. So in 4th grade we moved to Whittier with our uncle and only saw my mom once more in 7th grade at my grandmother's funeral. When I talked to her last November she told me the last thing I ever told her was that I hated her. It was so nice to be able to tell her I never hated her and kept loving her all of those years. We both cried and moved on. But FUCK, I'm not ready to lose her again I haven't even had a chance to go see her. I'm just trying to think positive thoughts for her and part of this stress may have got to me as I was taking my son to the DMV. I'm very sorry.:(

Of less importance but still a big deal to me since I am a suffering Oakland Raider fan is the fact they fired another coach last night. Tupac taught me that after every dark night there's a bright day after that. That saying has helped me so much in my life believe it or not. You have to suffer through the bad times to truly enjoy the good times and that's why I stay calm. Of course I didn't stay calm last night and possibly caused my son to fail. But I guess my point is that it's not always easy being a parent but I'll always be there and hopefully I'll figure it out at some point. I really write this for myself so I can remember the lessons later.

It's my birthday!

It's my 38th birthday today! Woohoo! I had a freaking wonderful day. I worked all day but even when I work I have a good time. My day started off with my mom calling me at 7am to say happy birthday. It was the first time that happened in over 26 years. It's all good though. Her and I great! We don't dwell on the past we just look forward to the future and enjoy the moment! That's how I live. Of course we all have our moments of weakness and sadness but like I heard from Tupac one time. After a dark night there's a bright day after that! So then on Facebook had a bunch of friends say happy birthday . Then, at about 4pm my brother-in-law, his wife, my neice, and my nephew all sang happy birthday to me on the phone. I almost cried. But you see early in life I was all insecure, naive, tough, sensitive, and a bunch of other things. I'm still those things today but I've learned a lot about myself. I'm mushy these days like I'm growing a Vagina. lol, whatever though. I just know I feel love. Like the song by Ziggy Marley "Love is my Religion". I feel that way. The older I get the more that love is my religion. I don't care if people think I'm weird for telling my friends I love them. Or for giving people hugs. Or for loving the cashier at the grocery store. They're my friends! So when my brother-in-law calls me (yeah who has a brother-in-law that's one of their best friends?) and sings to me that shit makes me want to weep like a little baby. I'm sappy like that but I don't care.

  So Friday we go to Oceanside and play board games, a card game called golf, and crazy 8s. We drink beer and Tequila and bbq chicken and potatoes. The next day we started again. Went to the pool and had some pizza and more beer and tequila. Helped another friend move and then Sunday was my sister-in-law's (my brother-in-law's wife) birthday. We threw a surprise party and had a keg of Corona and had the taco guy come and cook. We all went swimming and had a pinata with the little single shots of vodka and others. Then at like 1am my son and I went swimming and played one on one in some pool basketball. He kicked my ass 7-5 but I was blessed just to be doing that. Next day woke up sore but that was Labor day so it was time to relax. had a turkey burger from Carl's Jr.while one son had ranch bacon swiss, the other son had a grilled Cod sandwich. Went home and slept on the couch while NFL network played on the tv over and over. Had Directv turned off for a few months so had to soak it in. 

 

    I have to enjoy these moments. What a freaking wonderful day it was today. I am so appreciative of how lucky I am. I know one day I'll be handed a tough time and I will face it knowing that all of these other times I was extremely lucky. But today Love is my religion and I'm just extremely thankful!

This is not funny anymore

Comedy comes from seeing the funniness in tragedy and life. Nothing is funny though. After hearing about Robin Williams death yesterday I realized this. We can only joke so much and then the joke is on us. Game over.


I wont start with the President but I will say that his arrogance and pompous attitude are part of whats wrong. How is he supposed to know what's wrong with society when he doesn't live in it?


Ever since he sold out? Lights are on and he's a brilliant exaggerator, but he doesn't even believe his own rhetoric. The American dream is collapsing under the extreme pressure that it takes to support the entire planet!


Ok, so maybe not the entire planet but a lot of it. But while he takes months of vacation and plans his retirement in Hollywood, CA? Us Americans will have to endure and find ways to be hopeful for the next puppet to be elected. Did he really care? 

Is bringing a Republican President back into office an answer? Yeah, continue to think that there's a difference. They get you distracted with gay marriage, abortion, and welfare, while they completely sell out our future as a country. 

17 trillion dollar debt? 

If this is where we are in surplus where will we be when we're not the Gold (dollar) standard? 

When we ask the question from a candidate about what they'll do to fix these problems? 

Mitt Romney's answer was "I'll do it better than Barack Obama did". Really? I hope so! 

Why should I believe a corporate businessman will fix the economy? Simply because he's a businessman? I used to love KB Toy Stores as a kid, they declared bankruptcy after Mitt was done. I'm supposed to believe he'll treat the country like KB Toy Store?

 Or like his company Bain Capital? People like Mitt Romney care about themselves not the collective society. He was the Republican and Obama was the democrat. Who's an American supposed to vote for? 

Yeah, I was confused too!

 I want a guy more like Elon Musk or even Bill Gates. Warren Buffet? I don't know because I dont really know those guys. Women? Don't get me started on Hillary! What are her qualifications and how can I trust her? She went through the Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky scandal without ever flinching. Strength? Or is it political correctness that we should be scared of? Has anyone ever seen Hillary be sincere or real? What has she done that makes me want to trust her? She lived 8 years for free while collecting huge paychecks but classifies her and Bill's situation as "broke"? Why should I be hopeful she can run our country? Because the perception was that Bill did?

 In history it will be proven that he was lucky to be president at the beginning of the computer age. But the National debt still doubled in his 8 years. He also allowed home loans without proof of income. Which means people could finance whatever home they wanted no matter the price without having to prove they could afford the payment. I'm not a genius but I can see some flaws in that bill. What? 

It caused a huge housing collapse and for millions of people to lose their homes? Wait, didn't the government bail out the banks after the collapse? Wait a minute. You're telling me that the entity that gave the loan and made money off of the loan also was given money to rectify the loan? 

Who bailed out the man that had to go home and tell his wife they lost their dream home to the bank that the Government would then bail out after giving a loan that never made sense?